Marriage Counseling

There is a misconception that you should only go to marriage counseling if you are in crisis or on the verge of divorce. Unfortunately, it’s often what happens. The truth is, most couples wait an average of 6 years to come to therapy after the issues begin (Gottman). That means, most people do actually wait until they are in crisis/make-or-break mode. If possible, come sooner rather than later! All marriages can benefit from building conflict resolution and communication skills, or discovering how to actively express love to one another.

Regardless of where you are in your marriage, from crisis, to just looking to grow… here’s my approach to marriage counseling:

I will conduct 3 intake sessions (90 minutes each). It is most effective to complete these in 3 weeks or less.

-1st session: information gathering, giving immediate feedback on my impressions of the direction we’ll take in therapy. After, I’ll send you each a link from the Gottman Institute ($30 directly to the company). Once you both complete your assessments, I will receive the results.

-2nd session: 45 minutes with each spouse alone.

After the session, I will spend time analyzing the assessments, combined with the information I gather from our first 2 sessions, and identify the strengths and the issues in your marriage that cause marriages to fail (according to Gottman’s 40+ years of research).

-3rd session: I will have a treatment plan specifically tailored to your relationship’s biggest needs. This means we’ll identify not only the goals for therapy, but also how I plan to help you reach the goals with a specific plan.

These assessments are helpful tools that give us important information about your relationship. They help us get further, faster in session and enable a structured approach to a healthier relationship. We won’t get lost in this week’s fight. My goal is to get you to the place where you don’t need me anymore.

It is an investment up front, but one that is more efficient and solution-focused. In other words, as long as you are both engaged in the process, you’ll have a better relationship more quickly!

 

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